A Room of One's Own
Just like Little Miss C, I grew up with three younger brothers, and just like Little Miss C, I always had my own room while the three boys shared a space. It has always seemed natural for me to assume that girls need privacy and solitude while boys need to be useful or risk getting themselves in to trouble. ;) But lately, I've been questioning whether it is genuinely more healthy for my sons to all share the same bedroom.
E is an early riser, and possibly the most introverted of all our children. He constantly fumes at his brothers for messing up his Lego creations or *gasp* daring to talk to him while he builds his train layouts. He thrives on completing meticulous projects, loves to be outdoors, and needs ample alone time.
L, on the other hand, is super-social. The most severe form of punishment we can inflict on him is to send him to his room by himself. He talks constantly, always gives hugs, and wants to be almost-on-top-of-you while you complete your projects, read a book or simply stare into space. He likes to stay up LATE, but will wake up early if he hears his brothers moving around simply because he doesn't want to miss out on any fun.
Since birth, they've had a strange dynamic. L idolizes E. E is always trying to escape L. They're like oil and water, fire and ice. One rises early, the other stays up late. E is the pickiest of eaters while L cleans his plate and then waits patiently to be given his brothers' to eat as well.
We live in a three bedroom home, but we have a small home office that has become non-essential now that J doesn't work from home. I'm thinking of turning it into a bedroom for E, while L and Baby R continue to share a bedroom, but still... I hesitate.
And so, I'm curious: Do your boys have their own rooms? Do you share my same feeling that it's easier to protect a child from pornography and other evils if he doesn't have his own room to disappear into? Various perspectives are appreciated while I mull this over.