Within a week after I gave birth to E, J was offered a job in the city. We had just purchased a home far beyond the suburbs, thinking we would live our home schooling, self employed, home birthing lives apart from the majority of civilization. Suddenly, we found ourselves trading that in for a steady paycheck, health insurance, 3 hour commutes and 18 hour workdays. He virtually disappeared overnight.
Meanwhile, something wasn't right with baby E. He wouldn't sleep. He couldn't be put down. He nursed constantly, but seemed to be in unbearable pain within minutes of finishing. He cried. All. The. Time.
I found myself operating on the barest moments of sleep, confused by the feelings of protectiveness and resentment that swirled within myself. My mother and I frantically searched the internet and medical texts for clues as to what might be wrong. We took him to doctors. We prayed. The consensus seemed to be that he suffered from sever and painful GERD. The doctors shrugged their shoulders and said there was nothing they could do. He'd grow out of it in a year.
Trying to remember that year is like probing my fingers along the walls of a dark cave. I come away with a knowledge of the basic structure, but mostly its an impenetrable darkness. E could only obtain brief reprieves from the pain if I held him, stomach to stomach, as I reclined on a chair or in bed with mounds of pillows behind me. In this manner, we could snatch 20 minutes of rest at a time. I remember him crying, that high pitch shriek that made it so difficult to continue to hold and rock him. I remember tearful phone calls to the doctor, pleading for some kind of help. I remember eventually going numb to it all.
The doctors were right, he did eventually grow out of it. {Though he still suffers from food aversions and is underweight as a result.} I had been telling myself all along that in a year, things would be better. J would be working less. E would be sleeping. I would recover. But a year came and went, and I seemed to be sinking ever deeper into a deep, black place.
I'll admit that at one time, I thought {a bit smugly} that I had done J a large favor by sticking with him during that first crisis in our marriage. Needless to say, if that kind of wrong thinking held true, I was now deeply in his debt for how he stuck by me during my depression. To this day, I cannot compose the words to describe the hell that I descended in to. Nor my relief at my deliverance.
It came to a head at Easter time. We took a trip to visit family, and I couldn't bring myself to act even relatively normal. I cried and cried. J was helpless, and coped by photographing the nearby rail yard. Out of hundreds of photos taken that day, this is the only one we have of Little Miss C.
When we came home, I was forced to see a doctor. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and prescribed anti depressants. At the time, it felt like such a failure. I thought I was being overly dramatic, needing medication to deal with my sadness. But as the days passed and my pain faded, I began to realize that I had unknowingly spent years shrouded in a fog of depression. It was like that scene in The Wizard of Oz where Dorothy steps out of the wreckage of her home to discover a whole world in vivid color.
It was heavenly.
We courted. We laughed. We fell in love all over again.It was terrifying to think of giving it all up when a year later, I desperately wanted another baby.
But this time, I trusted God. I trusted J. And I trusted myself. The three of us were a team. We could overcome anything.
And we have.
The chicks are getting bigger every day. They've started to feather out, and when we let them loose in the backyard, they scratch in the dirt and fight over the crickets that they find. We currently house them in a Chick N Hutch {found on craigslist for just $50} It's a tight fit for now, but we only plan on keeping two of them. 
